MAFS star Martha Kalifatidis has spoken candidly about her “devastation” after finding out the gender of her baby.
The 34-year-old took to Instagram earlier this week to share with her followers that she and partner Michael Brunelli were having a baby boy.
Despite appearing over the moon on social media, the mum-to-be spoke openly about her real and raw experience of feeling “devastated” after finding out the gender.
“Guys I was 100% sure I was having a girl, like I had only opened girl clothing tabs on my phone, I was so convinced,’ she told KISS FM’s Will & Woody.
‘There was no chance in my mind it was going to be a boy, I had planned my whole life for this girl.
“I’ll be so honest with you guys. At the beginning, I was devastated like I was so upset. It took me a few days to like come to terms with it.”
Although rarely spoke about, both genders can experience gender disappointment when having a child, with some experts suggesting that around 1 in 5 women have gone through this phenomenon.
The couple announced that they were expecting a baby back in September, and have been open about the realities of their pregnancy journey.
With their March due date fast approaching, the pair shared the gender of their child on Instagram yesterday in a heartwarming video, writing “Oh boy, do we have news”.
In the short clip, Martha showed off her baby bump before the video cut to a sonogram where the couple asked the sonologist “not to tell” them the gender of the baby.
However, the Sydney couple later revealed the novel way they learnt their first child’s gender: they asked a jeweller to make a diamond ring with either blue or pink gems in it.
As they huddled around their kitchen table ready to open the ring box, Martha appeared to have second thoughts, quickly shutting the container and stating she didn’t want to know.
As clips of Martha sporting her baby bump played over the screen, there were recordings of friends and family’s voices declaring they thought the baby would be a boy.
Eventually Martha, who is now eight months pregnant, decides to open the box revealing a blue and diamond ring.
“It’s a boy,” Michael shouted.
“Oh my god, it’s a boy,” Martha said at the same time, before it cut to a clip of them cuddling and celebrating.
Hundreds rushed to congratulate the couple on the news on their social media post.
“Congratulations,” former MAFS co-star Jules Robinson commented on the post, while Steph Claire Smith left heart eye emojis.
Last month, Martha was praised after revealing another candid admission about her pregnancy.
She wrote in a lengthy Instagram caption that she didn’t know “how I can be so up and down”.
“I felt OK yesterday but today I literally feel like I’m dying,” the reality star said, adding she thought she might have Covid, only to test negative to the virus.
“Last week I spent 4 days straight in the house on the couch … I have a sore throat, no energy AT ALL. I’m hot and cold. Don’t want to get out of bed.
“I forced myself to get up and go get food just for some momentum, but I couldn’t even get myself out of the car once we arrived.”
While she acknowledged “how lucky I am and what a miracle it is to carry a child”, she said, “I feel like I’m at breaking point.”
The revealing post was immediately flooded with an outpouring of support for Martha, who thanked them “for taking the time to reply … sharing your stories … for your words of encouragement”.